Last week, we posted some alternatives to Valentine’s Day that you can do with yourself, fellow Stitch members, or friends. Now as we approach the holiday, we wanted to share some different perspectives of this day and what it means to a few of our Stitch Members. We hope you enjoy these anecdotes and share some of your own in the comments below.
Valentine’s Day Memories
Kathie from California
“I’m all about Hearts. Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. I remember in school making heart envelopes out of pink construction paper to hold all of those cute little Valentines from my classmates. It was one of the rare assignments I actually took my time doing and put effort into completing with care and a lot of attention.
Knowing how much most of the boys hated everything about this holiday, I would study for hours (or maybe it was minutes … I’ve never studied anything for hours) the way they wrote my name, as well as their signatures. I was convinced that there were clues in their handwriting that would tell me if they secretly wanted to be my Valentine. It wasn’t the most direct way to discover relationship potential, but back then, I believed it was the best way to tell who might like me back.
Things haven’t changed much since then — only now I study Profiles. I’ll read someone’s profile for hours (ok … minutes! Some things never change) to see if I can detect sincerity, a sense of humor, intelligence, and hopefully, compatibility.
I no longer have to analyze handwriting. Profile names are much more telling. I read between the lines for subliminal messages. Now that I’m older and hopefully wiser, I look for deal breakers.
But back to Valentine’s Day.
Even though I’m ‘single,’ Valentine’s Day still holds a very special place in my heart. Someone told me once that ‘Happiness is not what you hold in your hand, but what you hold in your heart.’ I like that … Especially when I’m trying to determine whether Happy Heart’s Profile is secretly telling me he wants to be my Valentine. Or … If I want to be his!”
Valentine’s Day Inspiration
Carol from Florida and Doug from Iowa
“Valentine’s Day is about loving each other as human beings, but commercially it is advertised as a couples/partners day. Here are a few quotes from others that express how we feel about our first Valentine’s Day as a couple:
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual (respect and) confidence, sharing and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and makes allowances for human weaknesses – Ann Landers
Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own– H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
Love isn’t something you find. Love is something that finds you – Loretta Young
Although Valentine’s Day can be a beautiful day for ‘couples’, it can also be a day of feeling left out, isolated, and lonely for others. Take a chance and meet a companion, enjoy a new friendship, or meet up for coffee or lunch. You’ll never know what you’re missing if you take no chances in life. If it’s love you’re looking for, start with a friend.
We are proof that Stitch.net has a formula that works. We started out as pen pals, communicating on a safe Stitch.net website environment. We were two people, living more than 1300 miles apart, and were very happy communicating for months without any pressures of the dating world. But little did we know, we were building a friendship that eventually led to exchanging phone numbers and email addresses, becoming friends on Facebook, and before we knew it, we decided it was time to meet to see if we had more than a friendship. Our hunch was right, and for now, we are still flying back and forth for visits. We know our relationship was meant to be, and we are planning a future together, all because we trusted a companionship website called Stitch.net.”
Carol and Doug,
You inspire me! I am drawn to Stitch after trying 6 other online dating sites. Stitch’s safety is a top priority for me, and yes, two people can connect across this wonderful country of ours! Thank you for sharing your story. I’m new to Stitch, and looking forward to this combination online dating/meet up/blog share, safe site to become part of ‘community’ with like-minded others. Because I grew up in a military family, I’m used to meeting others from all over the country as I always have while traveling throughout my life.
Thank you for your story and encouragement,
Sierra
Hi Sierra,
I’m so sorry I didn’t see your comment at the end of the Valentine stories on Stitch.net until today. It’s all any of us can ever hope for is that we inspire someone. Everyone’s needs and experiences are different, but the one consistent advice I always pass on to people I talk to about Stitch.net is how important the safety and security are to the creators of this wonderful worldwide organization. I always felt very safe and so did Doug. We exchanged our phone numbers & email addresses when we decided it was time, but were able to communicate daily through the Stitch website.
And you just never know, especially when you are open to all of the US or even the world, because many of us have friends that met partners and even spouses, by chance across the globe. And by the way, thank you for your family’s service. Doug and I each have sons that are active military.
I hope by now you have found companionship on Stitch.net, but if not, don’t give up. I’ve been a widow for several years, and feel so very blessed to have met Doug. We are looking forward to spending our senior years together and sharing a life we could not have even imagined just a year ago, and all because we joined Stitch.net.
So keep up a positive attitude, thank you for giving Stitch.net a chance to work for you, and Doug and I appreciate that we’ve inspired you and thank you. We love sharing our story with people and watching their expressions. Thanks again, and best of luck to you. Feel free to write back and let me know how you’re doing. Carol